Dating Today It’s probably the biggest dating trend of the new millennium: online dating. The rise of online dating makes it really easy to find someone you’re both attracted to and compatible with. Do you want to start with a relationship? Then the single most important rule to follow is to make yourself attractive and successful before you try to attract someone. That being said, it’s still a lot of work to find someone online. It can help to narrow your criteria a little bit, and it can also help you find the kind of person you’re looking for (more on that later). Here’s how to get started. Do Your Homework If you’re a hopeless romantic who’s still looking for love online, the first step is to get your profile set up. People who are in relationships rarely browse the singles sites, so if you haven’t already been online, now is as good a time as any to do it. This is the first place you’re going to come across potential dates, so you want to make a great first impression. You don’t have to be afraid to be a little picky: narrowing your options in this way might be the best way to narrow down the potential pool of people who are interested in you. This part is easier said than done, but if you put in the time and effort, you’ll make it through. This is where you create your profile, making it as good as it can be. Along with all the standard information that everyone else has—name, age, occupation, height, etc.—check to see if there are any places where people can get an indication of what you’re like, other than your photograph. For example, if you say you like sports, you could check to see if anyone else has said they’re a football fan. While you’re not obligated to include anything that could give the other person insight into your personal life, if you’re comfortable, it can make for a more interesting conversation. If you’re not at all comfortable with including these things, then it’s best to wait to find someone you can just get to know before getting into your real self. If you’re not into the whole dating game, you can still benefit from using social networking sites. People will be able to check out your profile and your friends’ profiles and judge for themselves what kind of people you are. Also, with Facebook you can set your privacy to private and who can see your profile and who can friend you. If you haven
Dating, or “getting together,” is where the magic is. When a woman finds a man she likes, the potential for a happy relationship is there. However, a lot of things can be in the way of your relationship starting and going well—you may only have one date with a potential mate, and you’re in it for the long run. It’s not an all-or-nothing proposition; you can have a little fun while getting to know someone. Of course, there are certain expectations you have of the outcome of a first date, but keep in mind that you’re probably going to be viewing people through rose-colored glasses. Therefore, if you’re out on your first date, keep in mind the following rules to keep you sane—and safe—on a first date. Photo by Tiago Vilanova on Unsplash You’re going out to have fun. It’s cool to try to mix your dating styles, but not if you’re going to be stuck being overly horny. Let’s face it, if you’re going to give sex a try, you’ll probably do it on the first date, and chances are it won’t be great. Don’t get stuck with a wandering wiener. The best way to avoid getting too drunk is by limiting your alcohol intake to 1-2 drinks. People don’t turn into raging bitches when they drink, but they can certainly become a little squirrely. If you don’t think you’ll get too tipsy, don’t drive. If you don’t feel comfortable going somewhere without someone else with you, call up a friend or two. If you realize you’re in a fun-but-creepy place, find something else to do. If you’re going to a work function, be sure to call ahead and ask the person you’re on a date with whether or not you should wear clothes that aren’t too revealing. It’s not an invite to see all the parts of the woman’s body, but pretty much anything is a bad idea. If it was your job to search for the item that is the perfect first date outfit, we’d have you digging through 30 years of college clothing catalogs for the most flattering cut of pants. You don’t want to look like a deranged hooker in a dressing gown, but if you’re going out in lingerie you’re giving up the game. No one’s going to care about that dress you wore to that wedding you attended 10 years

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